5 Steps Toward Making Your Goals Inevitable!

by Chris C. Ducker · 24 comments

Your Future

This is Guest Post by Jacob Sokol.

“If you can tell me who your heroes are, I can tell you how you’re going to turn out in life.” -Warren Buffet

I’ve been interested in what my future will look like for a mighty long time. From fulfilling relationships to personal finances, the spectrums of potential circumstances that interest me are most definitely diversified. I want to be healthy, happy, handsomely wealthy and having fun while contributing to the world in a massively meaningful way. I knew that actualizing those intentions were possible, but i didn’t always have a clear blueprint for bringing me closer to those goals.

To be crystal clear, let me just put this out there: I’m not a psychic, not a gypsy, not a healer, not a channeler, not a medium, not a fortune-teller, not a spirit-speaker, not a witch-crafter, and i am definitely not a devil-worshiper. I do however believe in the power to predict our future, and even positively influence it as well.

Let me ask you this: How could you make it so an outcome that you want to achieve is inevitable?

Enter “Inevitability Thinking.” Inevitability Thinking is all about conditions and setting up the right set of circumstances so that what you want to happen will “automatically” do so.

Don’t Buy Ice Cream!

Here’s an example. If you wanted to stop eating Ben & Jerry’s Chunky Monkey ice cream at night, one way to make that inevitable is not to buy it when you go grocery shopping. We’re going to use Inevitability Thinking to create the right set of influences in your life – ones that will bring you closer to who you want to become and where you want to go.

Before we go any further into the future though, let’s play a bit in the present moment. I want you to take this time to identify some information about yourself. First we need to look at who the five people that you spend the most time with are. That could include, but isn’t limited to:

  • Colleagues
  • Lovers
  • Friends
  • Family
  • Roommates
  • Hobbyists
  • Social-networkers
  • Etc…

Take the time to write down who those five people are. Really do it – you’re already reading this article, you might as well get the benefit from it. Now ask yourself some questions about those five people and answer honestly:

  • How motivated are they?
  • How healthy are they?
  • How much money do they make?
  • What are their habits?
  • How happy are they?
  • How productive are they?
  • What are their goals?
  • What are their relationships like?
  • What are their eating habits like?
  • Are they optimistic?

Think about the answers to those questions. Here comes the shocker…

If i didn’t know anything about you, except for whom the five people that you spent the most time with were, and what the characteristics of those five people are, I would have a pretty good idea of who YOU are – even if I’ve never met you!

Jim Rohn may have simply said it best here: “You are an average of the 5 people that you spend the most time with”. Wild stuff but the freak-show hasn’t completely closed yet. Check this out…

If I was to analyze that data, i could pretty accurately predict where you’ll be in the future based on these answers in the now. Wow! Let’s take a look at how we can put this knowledge into optimal action and create a set of circumstances conducive to making what you want inevitable.

5 Steps Toward Making Your Goals Inevitable

1. Ask yourself. “What does my ideal life look like?” It may help to think in terms of these categories:

  • Physical
  • Mental
  • Emotional
  • Spiritual
  • Social
  • Financial
  • Creative

Once done, I suggest that you write down your answers and put them up somewhere that you’ll see daily (but not just yet.)

Helpful hint: I suggest dreaming BIG. Far-out! Unrealistic. Whatever … Pretend that it was impossible for you to fail. Then articulate those answers. Doing this plants a seed in your mind that has the potential to sprout through small steps and time.

2. Score Yourself. Now take out the list that you wrote down earlier identifying the five people that you currently spend the most time with. See if the people on your list have the same qualities that your ideal life has.

In other words: are the five people that you spend the most time with bringing you closer to your ideal life, or are they pulling you further away? Identify if they’re averaging you up, or dragging you down.

3. Survey Your Environment. Think thoroughly and make a list of five people that you currently know that will bring you closer to living the life you want. These are people who have the qualities that it takes to get where you want to go. You can look through your:

  • Contacts
  • Emails
  • Job
  • Gym
  • Mind
  • And every other possible place to identify these people.

Helpful hint: If you don’t have five extraordinary people in your life to list, start by writing down what the characteristics of those people would be. Be on the lookout for when the opportunity to connect with people of such caliber presents itself, and then, take action!

4. Set The Example. It’s time to adjust accordingly. I know this is a sensitive subject and we don’t want to just go throwing out our closest friends. A good friendship is a sacred and honored bond to be cherished (and made fun of too.) With that in mind, we can still choose to scale back the amount of time that we spend with people who are not in alignment with where we want our lives to be.

Do what you have to do to become the person that you know you can be. Be virtuous and act with wisdom, courage, truth, justice, temperance and love! Then when it does come time to hang out with old friends and family, you are the living exemplification of the change that you want to see.

5. Be The Answer. Ask yourself this quality question: who do I need to become to attract the type of people into my life that will average me up? Answer that question honestly. Then take baby steps towards becoming that person. If you do, before you know it, not only will those people be in your life, but you’ll be averaging yourself up also.

This sequence of steps was an example of adjusting who you spend your time with based on Inevitability Thinking. Equally as important as whom you’re spending your time with is what you’re spending your time doing. All of your activities either average you up toward being the type of person that achieves your goals, or they can take you further away from them as well.

Personally, if i wanted to average myself down, I would do this:

  • Watch TV, especially the news.
  • Listen to the radio, especially public.
  • More Facebook, with lesser quality friends.
  • Gossip and talk about other people’s business in my conversations.
  • Hang out with people who have no interest in living an optimal life.

Currently, to “average myself up,” I do this:

  • Listen to interviews with people that inspire me.
  • Read books on subjects that I’m passionate about.
  • Meditate and spend some time with the universe daily.
  • Watch funny movies and documentaries on interesting ideas.
  • Make sure the people who I’m communicating with online are awesome.
  • Purposely pick what music i listen to depending on what mood i want to be in.

I also invite you to play with the idea of watching how you spend your time.

Ask Yourself This…

Ask yourself if what you’re doing, and who you’re doing it with, is bringing you closer to or further from the person that you know you can be. If it’s bringing you closer, that’s amazing. If it’s not, what are the circumstances that you need to put in place to make it inevitable that what you want to happen will?

Read more from Jacob about creating An Extraordinary Life at his blog, Sensophy.com. You can also follow him on Twitter.

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{ 24 comments… read them below or add one }

Jacob Sokol May 13, 2011 at 22:45

Thanx so much for the opportunity to contribute here homey!! You rock.

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Chris C. Ducker May 13, 2011 at 23:04

Great to have you here, bud. And thanks for the great article, too!

Best,
C

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Brad May 14, 2011 at 00:04

Man, 2 of my five people suck when you break it down like that Jacob. The issue is they are colleagues in a place that I am trapped until my other endeavors gain traction and I’m able to leave this joint.. 2 of them are my Wife and son, so they’re cool. I have one dude i chill with who is really creative and a super free thinker, so he rocks. Other than that, I need better friends. Ones who are entrepreneurs like I want to be and will be.

Another awesome post Big J. You always get the neurons fired up.

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Jacob Sokol May 14, 2011 at 02:37

Dope dude. Thanx for swinging thru over here!

Yeah it blows but some situations time take to maneuver, like your job in this instance. So for “the suckahs”, once you become conscious of their habits, you can make it a game to notice what it is *not to do*… Just being aware of their habits and tendencies is a great start. And then as time flows on, you can slowly scale back the amount of time you spend with those dudes, and ultimately, one day, cut ‘em off completely. I know, easier said than done but it’s a long term vision homeslice!

Shout out to that cool dude you chill with. Give him a knuckle bump for me. Have a great weekend Brad!!

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Nathan May 14, 2011 at 00:57

Excellent advice! super clear to follow and great instructions. I’m fortunate to have done this exercise and am now reaping the benefits!

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Jacob Sokol May 14, 2011 at 02:38

Thank you Nathan from nonstopawesomeness.me. -=)

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Jean-Patrick Bisson May 14, 2011 at 13:35

Thanks Jacob,

Sometimes you come across things at the right time, and this is one of those times.

Concise and well put.

Great food for thought to start this day.

Checked out your blog and will definitely read it.

Cheers,

JP

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Chris C. Ducker May 16, 2011 at 18:18

Nice to see you over at the blog, JP.

Thanks for dropping by, and for showing your support.

C

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Jacob Sokol May 17, 2011 at 03:00

Ahhhhh… My pleasure JP! Stoked that this post spoke to you so loudly.

The above has been a philosophy i’ve implemented for a long time before i was able to consciously articulate the methodology. Thrilled to have you swing by Sensophy too… Welcome to my reality! -=)

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Igor Korotkov May 14, 2011 at 22:55

interesting post, has Jack Canfield the one who inspired you yo write it? he talks about the significance of being around the right people in his “The Success Principles” and even uses the same quote :)

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Jacob Sokol May 17, 2011 at 03:06

yo yo Igor!!

I have a copy of “The Success Principles” on my bookshelf but have yet to dive in. I can’t say that any of the above has consciously come from Jack Canfield but he holds the record for one of my favorite “commitment” quotes:

“99% is a bitch, 100% is a breeze!!”

I’ve found that it’s way easier to make a 100% commitment to something (even if its just a small commitment) than it is to be “mostly-committed” and constantly tempting ourselves with the “ohhhh i’ve been soooo good i deserve a treat” self-talk.

Chat soon -=)

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Harold Dodd May 15, 2011 at 14:24

It seems that my current problem is that about 80% of my waking life is in a cube, working for someone else. Almost everyone I am around fits in the category of people whom I don’t want to be around. The good thing is that I am working on starting my own online business, and I have everything done, so far, except registering the name with the state government. So, I can say, at the very least, I am working on changing things, and that is a start..

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Jacob Sokol May 17, 2011 at 03:13

Awesome dude -=)

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Bojan May 15, 2011 at 18:33

But when you make a step to inspiring change on yourself and rise above the people you are currently hanging out with you will encounter the ressistence, which is common thing in our nature.

That goes for me, it was hard finding nurturing environment for your success! You have to go, where succesful crowd goes. My expensive gym membership pays off, because when you see people who already made it, that subconciously gives you premmision to do the same…

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Harold Dodd May 15, 2011 at 19:36

That’s right. I remember when someone told me that, if I wanted to be a “millionaire”, I had to BE that millionaire, and that didn’t necessirily mean having the money at hand. I think that, in a way, what is being posted here for the moment is part of creating that mindset.

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Stuart May 16, 2011 at 03:51

An interesting read Jacob, thanks for sharing this with us.

I must admit, I’ve tried this exercise out before, the first time I heard it was at a leadership seminar back in 2009. But it never loses its effectiveness! The five people I spend my time with, they’re cool and all that, but I have a sinking feeling that they won’t, as a whole, get me to where I want to be. I know changes are required if I want to lead a different kind of life, which deep down, I do.

Here’s an exercise to lead on from this: why not do the test every 6 months? Or 12 months? You get to see how far you’ve come in terms of living a better life, and you get to evaluate whether the time spent since the last test has been worth it.

After reading this article, I plan on doing this exercise again in 6 months time. I hope that there will be at least one new person on the list ;-)

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Jacob Sokol May 17, 2011 at 03:21

Nice yo!

Looking back for evaluation sounds sweet. I bet that you’d find you don’t give yourself nearly enough credit for where you are now and where you came from.

That goes for us all -=)

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Matthew Needham May 16, 2011 at 17:04

Jacob, what a great article my friend. I’ve seen the example of the 5 friends thing before and it’s so true. But only obvious when you actually do it. I’m fortunate that my friends are quite ambitous and my family are very close, loving and supportive which are the exact characteristics that I want more of.

I’ve stopped listening to the radio for the past 4/5 months and instead listen to Podcasts (like Chris’s) and Andrew Warner’s Mixergy. I’ve learned such a lot of interesting stuff which has inspired me and encouraged me to do more with my own business. I now actually look forward to a long drive!

Matthew

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Jacob Sokol May 17, 2011 at 03:22

Haha, i love it!

Great stuff Matt, keep it uppppppp!!

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Salvatore Greco May 17, 2011 at 06:45

Yea Dude!!! Loving seeing you kick ass outside of sensophy…

This is so all inclusive its ridiculous. You took the nail of personal development, and with an entrepreneurial hammer, STRUCK it to pieces!!!

Definitely going to enjoy some bonding time with the universe right… NOW!!!

Surfs up,

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Michael Van Osch May 24, 2011 at 01:18

Excellent post. So many of us don’t create and environment conducive to our success. Great points, will retweet.
cheers, Michael

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Chris C. Ducker May 24, 2011 at 18:24

Thanks, Michael.

Glad you liked the post, and thanks in advance for the social love, too!!!
:-)

C

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Jacob Sokol May 30, 2011 at 00:44

Indeed dude. Thanx for the warm words and stoked that it spoke to you!

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Chris C. Ducker May 30, 2011 at 17:19

This spoke to a lot of people, Jacob.

Good job, buddy – and you’re welcome back at the VBL as a guest writer anytime…!

C

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